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Self Acceptance and Society/Fat Acceptance

Self acceptance is loving and appreciating yourself even if there are things you'd eventually like to change. Fat acceptance or society acceptance is getting society as a whole to accept that we have the same rights has everyone else and to reduce prejudice within the community.

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Acceptance, what does it mean to an SSBBW. It is about accepting that you are a beautiful, caring person regardless of your weight. It is about accepting that your weight does not define you any more than your hair color or height. Can you accept yourself and still want to lose weight? Of course, self acceptance is all about embracing who you are right now, including all your faults/shortcomings.

Alot of large people, male and female, have a hard time with acceptance. Society and the media, unfortunately, are a large cause of this inability to accept yourself. Magazines are full of svelte bikini-clad women and advertisements for low-fat this and low calorie that. Governments and news media are forever going on about the "obesity epidemic" and bad it is to be overweight. It is continuously stressed to us how bad it is for us to be overweight and how different we are. However, self-acceptance is just that. Loving yourself without question and not relying on others to indicate your worthiness.

Personally, I've found that the internet community and age have greatly helped me with acceptance. I do know that as I get older I care less about what others think about me and have become more sure and happy with who I am. And the internet has brought me to a whole new community that I didn't know existed of other people just like me. It has made me realize I am not alone in the struggle for acceptance or of being an SSBBW. Yes, I am SSBBW. I am fat. I am overweight. BUT I am also intelligent, funny, caring, loyal, etc. I have nice hair and a cute smile. I snore. I procrasinate. This is me and I accept me.

Some people, in their quest for acceptance, look for it in the wrong places. By becoming a "yes" person and doing anything and everything when asked, by hanging with the wrong crowd, by giving themselves freely to others, by being promiscuous, etc. But in the end, they find their search for acceptance falls short. Once you are accepting of yourself you will find others accepting you as well. In all honesty, those that do not accept you are not worthy of the wonderful person you are.

So, don't think of your quantity but of your qualities. Write them down and place them in a prominent place so you can see them everyday. Hold your head up high and tell yourself that you are wonderful.

Be the best you can be in everything you do. Be yourself.

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