Profiling SSBBWs and their views, thoughts and issues
To help inspire those SSBBWs who haven't yet gotten that they are wonderful, caring, sexy, special people. Someone who is accepting of themselves, who is happy (either alone or with a loving mate), perhaps someone who works or does good things for the community. It doesn't matter who you are or what you do. There is so much negativity on the net towards SSBBWs that we want to show the good side. If you know someone who fits this bill or feel you do and want to get profiled, let us know at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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This month's SSBBW is Marilyn, a 56 year old from Ontario, Canada
SSBBW Magazine: What is your current weight?
Marilyn: 362 pounds
SSBBW Magazine: What body shape would you say you are?
Marilyn: Pear Shaped
SSBBW Magazine: Have you always been an SSBBW?
SSBBW Magazine: Tell us abit about your weight history.
Marilyn: I have always been considered overweight even as a child. But as I was always very active and tom boyish it never was really a problem. I did not really become an SSBBW until I had been married for many years and I believe that was due in part to various health issues that I was undergoing and my body reacted with keeping excess weight. It wasn't until a few years ago it was discovered that I had congestive heart failure which was a big contributor to the weight gain because of the build up of fluids around my heart. This weight gain comes on very rapidly and is very difficult to lose.
SSBBW Magazine: Why would you be an inspiration to other SSBBWs?
Marilyn: Well I don't know that I would be an inspiration, but I know that there are many challenges and obstacles an SSBBW has to overcome and deal with, not because she/he puts themself in that position, but because society has put them in that position. Some days I just have to tell myself, get through this next 15 minutes and you'll be ok and so on. I never give up no matter how bad the outlook might be. One thing I did learn from my late husband is that for every problem there IS a solution and if you keep at it long enough you will find your answer.
SSBBW Magazine: What are the joys of being an ssbbw?
Marilyn: Joys that I have noticed are that I am finding that men are attracted to the
SSBBW because of the curves and softness of someone like that. I've heard the
old adage many times over the years that men prefer women with some meat on
their bones, although if you talk to them in a group they would most likely deny
it. Again blame that on the stigma that thin society puts on them for wanting to
dare to like someone over a size double zero! I find that I am more girly girly
at this size. I like being soft, and feminine.
SSBBW Magazine: What are the drawbacks?
Marilyn: Sadly the drawbacks are many. It's a dog's breakfast of a list starting with size discrimination from "normal" society, health issues, finding clothes to fit, finding seats in aircraft, buses, trains, movie theaters, restaurants. Being able to walk long distances without chafing between your thighs because they rub together. In the summer getting so warm that you are continually perspiring. The stigma for "normal" society again thinking that all SSBBW's do is sit at home and fill their mouths constantly with all the wrong kinds of food when in reality in most cases it's the "normal" people who are eating a lot more than an SSBBW does in a day.
SSBBW Magazine: What is it like being an SSBBW in today's society?
Marilyn: It is very difficult being and SSBBW in today's society. We do not fit in and those who do not fit in must not be normal. And if you don't fit in you can't be part of the group. It's like being back in high school again and you're either the cheerleader or the nerd. But I think because of all the trials and tribulations an SSBBW has to go through, it makes them stronger and can give them a boost to their self esteem and confidence. "No one can make you feel bad except yourself" is not my quote but one well worth remembering when having to deal with uninformed people in today's society.
SSBBW Magazine: How would you like to change society's view of SSBBW?
Marilyn: We need large corporations to acknowledge the fact that SSBBW's have a lot of spendable cash out there and they need to entice and cultivate us. We need to have more advertising with SSBBW's and BBW's in them. We need to get into society's face a lot more than what is being done now. I know in Canada there is not a lot going on to make this happen
SSBBW Magazine: What do people/companies serving the public need to do to accommodate ssbbws?
Marilyn: Well let's be aware that everyone's butt is not the same size and make bigger and sturdier chairs for one thing. Stop the penalty of having to pay for 2 seats when flying. Where is my money when I have to listen to screaming children for a 5 hour flight and that's okay why? They need to get out there and meet SSBBW's. Spend time with us, see what we can do and how we do fit in today's world. Awareness is the key as well as communication, to making the public more aware.
SSBBW Magazine: Can you recommend such people/services who do?
Marilyn: I know a lot of the local city buses accommodate seating for larger riders. And some of the movie theaters here as well. I always phone ahead to a restaurant to check out they layout and if they can accommodate me before I go there. One quick phone call saves a lot of embarrassment later on when you arrive and find little bistro chairs or booths to sit in and you know there is absolutely no way you are going to be sitting there. Phone ahead to places and keep a list. I give such a list to my friends when they want to plan something to include me. That way there will be no surprises or embarrassments.
SSBBW Magazine: Do you follow any exercise or healthy eating regimes? If so, what are they?
Marilyn: I stopped dieting years ago. I eat a lot of fresh fruit and vegetables. I limit
my liquid intake to 1.5 litres per day (because of the quick fluid retention
from CHF). I eat both red and white meat, but not every day. When I can afford
to I buy organic. The only exercising I currently do is walking when I can (I
use a walker) and sitting down tai chi. I also take vitamins. And the most two
most important things for me to do are: 1) eat my largest meal at noon hour to
burn it all off by bedtime and 2) eat several small meals during the day...every
couple of hours have a little something. A few nuts, or a piece of cheese, piece
of fruit. I do not allow myself to go hungry because that's when I tend to eat
fast and not give my stomach and my brain a chance to talk and say, hey, we're
good to go here. Slow down and wait 20 minutes to see if you're still hungry
before you have seconds. Oh there is one more thing which works for me and that
is I always have a wee snack before bed. A cup of tea and a biscuit. That way I
do not wake up ravenous. But again, this is what works for me. Everyone is
SSBBW Magazine: If you could wave a magic wand and be 130 lbs, would you?
Marilyn: Yes I have to be totally honest and say yes I would. I would love to be able to just walk into a store and buy off the rack. I would love to blend in with the crowd because of my size and not stand out. I would love to wear a bikini for a couple of hours. But I know that being the perfect weight would not change my life in the other problems/hurdles I have to deal with. It would not be the magic cure for everything.
SSBBW Magazine: Do you have a favorite overweight actor/actress?
Marilyn: I guess by today's standards my favourite would be Marilyn Monroe. I think she was beautiful She looked like a woman. As does Sophia Loren. Very, very sexy women.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to all the SSBBWs reading this?
Marilyn: I would say don't let your SSBBW size stop you from achieving what you want out of life. You are the only one holding yourself back. You can be an SSBBW or BBW and be completely happy and satisfied with your life the way it is. And that's a good thing. You must strive to be comfortable in your own skin, because until you achieve that, you will not find true happiness anywhere else. Once you accept it, the rest will fall into place. I know this to be true because I am living that advice today.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to those just reading this out of curiosity about the SSBBW / FA community?
Marilyn: To those people, please remember we are just like you. We have the same feelings, we bleed the same way, we cry the same way. Many times you will depend upon us for something and are surprised that we could be so helpful and caring. Become friends with an SSBBW/FA. You'll be glad you did. We are funny, well educated people who have the same worries and goals as those outside of the SSBBW communities. Most importantly, "Be Curious". Find out more about SSBBW's so we don't frighten you or embarrass you.
SSBBW Magazine: Thank you Marilyn. [ email@example.com ]