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Self acceptance is loving and appreciating yourself even if there are things you'd eventually like to change. Fat acceptance or society acceptance is getting society as a whole to accept that we have the same rights as everyone else and to reduce prejudice within the community.

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Taking a break from the "self-acceptance struggle".

I think this month I've discovered something totally exciting. Well, it's something I've heard others talk about but never believed. That sometimes if you just "let go" of your struggles they can start to resolve themselves.

I don't know about you but I've never figured out how to let go. I'm always obsessing over food, weight, calories, dress sizes and appearance. But then I went on holiday to Hawaii. Before I went I was of course panicked about swimwear and the like. Once I got to Waikiki though it only took me about twenty four hours to realize that larger Polynesian women were so normal over there that women of any size were accepted. I was tooted at traffic lights. Grinned at in shopping centers. And hit on in Starbucks. It's as if I'd woken up a size zero supermodel.

I of course was only there to relax and enjoy the beach and fresh pineapple. But the attention helped me let go of my focus on myself and not question myself daily. And before you know it I was not binge-eating, but eating when I was hungry. Then I was walking, not cause I had to, but just cause I wanted to stroll along the beach front. And then I was spending the evenings pampering myself with massages and shaving my legs, dying my hair, whatever. Just cause it had felt so nice to be out in the sun and the back inside.

By the end of the week I was doing everything I have always advised you all to do. I had gone shopping for clothes that fit, and didn't care they were a size 20 or whatever cause they were comfy and bright and looked good. And I felt good. Of course you know what happened then. I actually accepted one of the offers of having a drink with a local and next thing you know I was having the most ridiculous holiday affair with the most god-like male. And I did not once think "I am sooo lucky that someone so gorgeous is out in public with me." I thought - "He is soo lucky that I am sharing my holiday time with him."

I went home and my friends and bosses at work nearly fell over. I heard that I looked "triumphant" and "radiant" and "golden" and like I'd lost weight, dropped wrinkles from my face or dropped loads of stress. It was a total renewal of the self. And it all seemed to happen because for the first time in a long time I was not over-focused on the negative, but just relaxing and enjoying my life.

Written by: Jody

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