AN FAs VIEW
FAs (Fat Admirers) and their views, thoughts and issues
What is is like being an FA in today's society. What are the joys of living/being with an SSBBW. Are there drawbacks? Let us know at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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May 2008 - We profiled Charles, a 47 year old from Bellingham, Washington
SSBBW Magazine: How long have you been an FA?
FA: I truly believe I have been an FA my whole adult life. The first girl I ever dated was larger than the others in high school, and I was originally attracted to her because of her size. My first girlfriend was also "queen-sized" as well as tall, and my attraction to larger women was definitely validated with her.
SSBBW Magazine: Have you always been open with family/friends about being attracted to large women or did you try to hide it?
FA: I've always been open about my preference. Most don't understand my attraction, but no one has ever tried to "talk me out of it." A lot of people (male and female) ask me "why" or get me to try to explain it. I find I can't. It is an all-encompassing, deeply-held, emotional and sexual preference, and it is too wide-reaching to ever be able to explain it. Some things can't be explained.
SSBBW Magazine: What attracts you to ssbbw?
FA: I am attracted to SSBBWs by their confidence, first and foremost. Physical beauty is obviously something that I notice first, but it is their confidence that holds my attention. I am captivated by the femininity of their curves. I find a full-figured female body very sexy and appealing.
SSBBW Magazine: What is your ideal woman?
FA: My ideal woman is someone in her late 30's to late 40's...definitely an SSBBW who is proud of who she is, and one who is confident knowing that she is a beautiful, desirable woman. It's important to me to find someone who can accept my appreciation of her. I would also be interested to possibly meet someone who is not averse to having a child with me, even if she is in her late 30's.
Physically speaking, I am a sucker for a woman with a large, sexy tummy. A "belly apron" is a huge turn on for me. I also thrill to a woman with large thighs, wide hips, full upper arms, and a well-shaped bottom.
SSBBW Magazine: What are the joys of being with an ssbbw?
FA: The joys of being with a SSBBW are almost too many to list! There is something very exciting about being with a woman who has so much sexiness and femininity. I am not at all into domination or submission, but a confident SSBBW who is assertive, and not afraid to express her desires is very appealing to me.
I think an SSBBW with the confidence to flaunt her beauty (as in wearing a bikini, perhaps, or some figure-flaunting clothes) is the epitome of the joy of being with an SSBBW.
I also deeply feel that BBWs and SSBBWs have sunnier and happier personalities than other women, and it is a joy to be around them.
SSBBW Magazine: What are the drawbacks?
FA: I know of no drawbacks to being with an SSBBW. All women are beautiful, SSBBWs in particular, and I am always proud to be seen with whoever I am with. I look for opportunities to be extra attentive or sensitive to her needs, so that she is always comfortable, protected and at ease when we are out on the town.
SSBBW Magazine: If your woman wanted to have weight loss surgery would you support her? Stay with her?
FA: I did have an SSBBW girlfriend (she weighed 330 lb.), and she wanted the Lap Band. I went with her to the hospital in Mexico, and stayed with her through the operation, the recovery, and for a long time afterwards as she lost the weight. She fell to 189 lb. I definitely supported her in that goal, because it was something she wanted. We eventually broke up for reasons unrelated to her weight loss.
SSBBW Magazine: If your woman was unable to leave the house or needed constant care and help because of her size, would you be there for her?
FA: Caring for your partner in circumstances like that is the ultimate expression of love, and it would be an honor to be able to take care of my woman in those circumstances.
SSBBW Magazine: Is there such a thing too big?
FA: For me, I think 'too big' kicks in where immobility, health or hygiene problems start. We are all ultimately responsible for what we put into our mouths, and if someone starts down a self-destructive path, that is an issue that a mere boyfriend/partner cannot likely successfully address. We have to love ourselves before we can love someone else.
If I had to put a number on it, I would say that over 450 lb. is beyond my tastes, generally speaking. On the other hand, a popular web model, GainingGoddess, is over 450 lbs. and she really rings my chimes. I find everything about her very attractive.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to all the SSBBWs reading this?
FA: Ladies, you are beautiful women. Someone, somewhere admires you or wants to admire you, if you are not already in a relationship. Man is meant to honor womanhood, and when there is also a physical attraction to you, life can really be complete for both parties. Never give up. Honor yourself, the rest will come in time. Therein lies the key to great self-confidence. Beyond that, ladies; please let your interest in us, (if you have any) be known. You know how to flirt. You have what it takes. Use it to give us a hint! We'll take it from there!
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to all the FAs reading this?
FA: I feel a kinship with other FA's. When I am at the Bash in Las Vegas, I have extremely interesting conversations with some of the other guys attending. I think all or most FA's would agree with me when I say that we feel somewhat protective of BBWs and SSBBWs, in addition to our physical attraction to them. I try to promote this feeling of protectiveness in all my converation with other FA's.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to those just reading this out of curiosity about the SSBBW / FA community?
FA: I would say to all those on the outside of the SSBBW/FA community that you are missing one of the greatest experiences available in this life. I have consistently found larger women to be more caring, more empathetic, and more passionate than any of their "Skinny-Minnie" sisters. We are a very welcoming group, and I would encourage any and all to join us, and see what Big Love is all about.
SSBBW Magazine: Thank you Charles.
Other Info Charles would like to share:
Career: Aerospace Manufacturing
Marital Status: Divorced and single
Height: 5' 10.5"
Seeking: an unattached BBW or SSBBW from 38-45 y.o., located in (or willing to move to) the Great Northwest.
Email address: Brendonville@hotmail.com