Profiling SSBBWs and their views, thoughts and issues
To help inspire those SSBBWs who haven't yet gotten that they are wonderful, caring, sexy, special people. Someone who is accepting of themselves, who is happy (either alone or with a loving mate), perhaps someone who works or does good things for the community. It doesn't matter who you are or what you do. There is so much negativity on the net towards SSBBWs that we want to show the good side. If you know someone who fits this bill or feel you do and want to get profiled, let us know at email@example.com.
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May 2008 - We profiledDivina a 42-year old from East Midlands, UK
SSBBW Magazine: What is your current weight?
SSBBW: 412 pounds
SSBBW Magazine: What body shape would you say you are?
SSBBW: pear (aka SSBBW)
SSBBW Magazine: Have you always been an SSBBW?
SSBBW: Always been a big gal - I was 14/16 as a teenager then my weight ballooned when pregnant with my two children and plateaued at about 21stone for a number of years but since my mid 30s it has steadily crept up again to my current weight.
SSBBW Magazine: Why would you be an inspiration to other SSBBWs?
SSBBW: Not sure if I am an inspiration as such - I just know that I have been at rock bottom emotionally several times in my life and in my mid 20s I am ashamed to admit that I even took an overdose when my marriage crumbled as I discovered my husband was seeing a 15 yr old - not good for the confidence of a fat girl - but I have learnt from my mistakes - and become wiser with my experiences - nowadays I am finally at peace with myself and my body - its been a long journey but its whats made me the person I am inside today - I hold my head high - I try and treat people how I wish to be treated back and if all else fails I stand up for what I believe is right - the saying that you have to go out there in the big wide world to grasp what you desire as it won't come to you is so true - my life has gone from strength to strength once my attitude and actions moved in the right direction (the right direction for me that is :))
I am doing many things now that I should have done years ago - and through the internet I have discovered that there are indeed many men out there that desire and admire our body size and shape - we are after all as nature intended - think about it - there are many different species of animal and plant - take the bird (of the feathered kind :)) - comes in all hues - shapes - colours and sizes - flowers - all different colours - sizes - shapes - humans..... all different shapes - sizes - colours etc - so we are not freaks - we a re not ugly - we are as nature intended - to provide variety :))
SSBBW Magazine: What are the joys of being an ssbbw?
SSBBW: The joys - WOW - let me see - well for me my biggest joy is my new career - it doesn't suit everyone and I guess some will look down their noses at me for it (but does this face look bothered LOL!) - I am a web glamour model in my spare time - yes you read it right LOL - I do modelling of the super-size kind - and the big joy I get from it is the emails I see drop in my mailbox every day from guys alla round the world who stroke my confidence by proclaiming my beauty in their eyes - it makes me smile - makes me walk forward with confidence and gives me the pride to dress sexiliy and flirt outrageously LOL!
Other joys - coming across websites who sell delicious underwear and clothes for the super-size gal - seeing the adoration in a guy's eyes as he desparately tries to chat me up - having a bus seat all to yourself - being seen walking miles with the dogs (WOW do fat people walk
SSBBW Magazine: What are the drawbacks?
SSBBW: Drawbacks - hmm - No 1 on my list - society prejudice - always makes me so cross (see below) - not being able to squeeze into some car seatbelts - fixed tables & chairs in cafes - tiny cinema seats - and seeing a item of clothing thats out of this world then finding its not in your size :(
SSBBW Magazine: What is it like being an SSBBW in today's society?
SSBBW: Society is full of fatist prejudice - though it is slowly getting better - I have seen a some changes over the years though we still have a LONG way to go! For a SSBBW like me when out in public you get sniggers - cutting remarks - vulgar remarks - guys telling you they think you fantastic and they adore you but if you lost 5 or 10 stone then they would date you - people giving you the disapproving stare if you eat or drink in public because they immediately assume every fat person got fat through binge eating and drinking!
I am in the process of writing a book about society's prejudice and how to re-discover yourself so this is dear to my heart having suffered all of the above and so much more in my life.
SSBBW Magazine: How would you like to change society's view of SSBBW?
SSBBW: I just want people to accept fat people as being as deserving of respect - love and decency as any other member of society - and to see that we are as nature intended and not greedy lazy freaks - As Forest Gump once said ' Thats all i want to say about that right now' :)
SSBBW Magazine: What do people/companies serving the public need to do to accommodate ssbbws?
SSBBW: Consider our size/weight needs - bigger chairs - NOT fixed to the floor - more respect when dealing with us instead of looking down their noses at us (our money is as good as the skinny gal next to me) - hotels should provide stronger beds which are not covered in thin slats etc and are capable of taking our weight - and often the shower rooms are so tiny I have trouble squeezing my rear in to shower - more fashion shops selling a higher range of sizes - oh and my pet hate in buying clothes is WHY do fashiond esigners think that because we are fat we are not trendy or sexy and that we don't wish to reveal a flash of cleavage or leg or the tattoo on our lower backs LOL - though I admit this is improving - other countries such as the USA are so far ahead of us when it comes to fashion for super-size gals - i have actuallyr esorted to buying my clothes from overseas through Ebay or Big gals Lingerie nowadays as they give me what I want to wear :)
SSBBW Magazine: Can you recommend such people/services who do?
SSBBW: yep Ebay - www.biggalslingerie.com - www.beabea.co.uk - oh and apart from SSBBW magazine's Forum - I can highly recommend www.fat-forums.com - its a fantastic online community where everyone is accepted and welcomed and the Super-Size gals such as myself are adored by many of the male members - its a multi-national membership with many from the UK and States - i have never felt as at home as within the Fat Forums
SSBBW Magazine: Do you follow any exercise or healthy eating regimes? If so, what are they?
SSBBW: I've never been a binger of food - and tend to go through phases - I can go months without touching chocolate then all of a sudden a binge-fest sweeps over me - I go out and buy 6 bars - gorge on 2 then ask myself why I bought the other 4 and they go away in the drawer till either me or my young grandson finds them again :) I never drink full milk - I have been on sweeteners all my life and don't fry anything unless its on a George Forman - other than that - nope I don't diet - but yes I do eat plenty of fruit and veg
SSBBW Magazine: If you could wave a magic wand and be 130 lbs, would you?
SSBBW: Absolutely NOT! At the end of the day thin girls have all the same insecurities and emotional issues us big girls do - dumping the excess weight will change nothing - its the personality and outlook that has to change for us to finally be happy - so nope I am content with my size - though possibly I would consider going to a size 24/26 from my current 30/32 - only because that opens up more outlets for clothing as a size 24 LOL
SSBBW Magazine: Do you have a favorite overweight actor/actress?
SSBBW: Oh yes - I SO ADMIRE Dawn French - a sassy - active - ambitious - upfront - funny and beautiful BBW - she has so many facets to her personality - oh to have her talent and personality :)
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to all the SSBBWs reading this?
SSBBW: Life is too short - live every day to its fullest - if you want soething go after it - if you aren't happy with something - change it - learn to like and love yourself and your skin - then you will find ultimate peace.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to those just reading this out of curiosity about the SSBBW / FA community?
SSBBW: Once you taste fat - you never go back! :) Jump in with both feet cos you will not find more genuine, compassionate and fun-loving people anywhere else :))))
SSBBW Magazine: Thank you Divine DeeDee (aka Divina)