AN FAs VIEW
FAs (Fat Admirers) and their views, thoughts and issues
What is is like being an FA in today's society. What are the joys of living/being with an SSBBW. Are there drawbacks? Let us know at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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July 2008 - We profiled Jeff, a 21 year old from Virginia
SSBBW Magazine: How long have you been an FA?
FA: As far back as I can remember, I've always found bigger women attractive. It was probably around my Sophomore year in high school, however, that I finally realized there was a name for Fat Admirers and that I wasn't alone in feeling that way. It was a great relief to me to discover that.
SSBBW Magazine: Have you always been open with family/friends about being attracted to large women or did you try to hide it?
FA: At first, I never really had an opening for which to discuss it, up until I was working on my book, The Dragon of the Desert Wind, when I created my character Angela. At that point, any attempts of even denying it were futile, and by then I had built up the courage to stand firm behind my preferences and my beliefs.
SSBBW Magazine: What attracts you to ssbbw?
FA: That's a difficult question. If pressed I guess I'd have to admit I prefer top-heavy women as a general rule, but the entire physique is more likely to be attractive to me.
SSBBW Magazine: What is your ideal woman?
FA: More than anything, I'd like to find a woman who shares a similar world view as myself, being a Christian conservative. That takes priority above all else. However, I'd love to meet a kind, gentle woman who is a good listener as, given a chance, I am quite a talker. Don't get me wrong, SSBBWs are my physical ideal, but I try to keep an open mind in regards to physical traits.
SSBBW Magazine: What are the joys of being with an ssbbw?
FA: The hugs, no doubt. I'm a touchy-feely sort of guy, so hugging and cuddling are some of my favorite things in life, and the soft warmth of an SSBBW is heavenly.
SSBBW Magazine: What are the drawbacks?
FA: I'm not sure. That depends on a lot of things, I guess. I really don't know how to answer this one, frankly.
SSBBW Magazine: If your woman wanted to have weight loss surgery would you support her? Stay with her?
FA: Absolutely I would stay with her. If I truly love and respect a woman, I'd support her on just about any choice she makes, as long as it were legal. I tend to think that most relationships are sparked with that sort of "Oh, hey, they're cute!" sort of scenario, but I also think it grows from there into a much more mental and emotional connection. If she wanted to do it, and was informed of the risks and consequences, I'd be standing beside her 100%.
SSBBW Magazine: If your woman was unable to leave the house or needed constant care and help because of her size, would you be there for her?
FA: Of course I would. As I said before, it's more than just a physical connection, after all. However, in that sort of situation, I would also work with her to help her work on her mobility again. I want her to be happy, but I also want her to be healthy and able to live her life too, not just being bedridden forever.
SSBBW Magazine: Is there such a thing too big?
FA: Yes. With all due respect, I adore SSBBWs, but when she cannot move on her own power, or requires, say, handrails or something like that to move about, that's a serious problem. That's a severe health risk and though I would certainly be friends with her - and help her through those obstacles of life - I want to find a woman who can be my equal, a helper in life. I don't mean to sound rude, after all, but I just want all people to be happy.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to all the SSBBWs reading this?
FA: Never give up. There are good FAs out there. Some of them are just scared right now. Also, never settle for 2nd best. It may take time, but good things come to those who wait, and find their perfect match in heart, body, mind and soul. Mr. Right is out there, so don't settle for Mr. Right-There-Right-Now.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to all the FAs reading this?
FA: When you first admit your preferences - no matter who it is you tell it too - you will suffer for it in one way or the other. I'm sorry, but that's just the way it works. The important part of it, though, is to remain true to who you are and, if you're already with a (SS)BBW, to remain true to her too. Don't give in to the pressure, and you'll see the attitudes of those around you change - even if the change is slow. Bit-by-bit, we can all make a difference in this way, by being honest.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to those just reading this out of curiosity about the SSBBW / FA community?
FA: Preferring plus-sizes in your partner is merely a preference - much like some will tell you they prefer certain hair or eye color in their partners. However, it's also a preference that links us to a cause, a struggle, for equality for all sizes, be they small, medium, large or super-sized. It's a beautiful thing to live, but wouldn't it be even better if we could live without hurtful comments or harassment due to one's size? You can help to. Join with us, and tell all your friends and family - all men and women are created equal.
SSBBW Magazine: Thank you Jeff.