AN FAs VIEW
FAs (Fat Admirers) and their views, thoughts and issues
What is is like being an FA in today's society. What are the joys of living/being with an SSBBW. Are there drawbacks? Let us know at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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March our FA was Gareth, a 35 year old from the United Kingdom
SSBBW Magazine: How long have you been an FA?
FA: Since I was a teenager and first got interested in girls, I've had no objection to fat women, I'm not strictly an FA, in that I dont equate fat with attractiveness. There are plenty of fat women who don't interest me and there are slim ones who do, and I'd actually reject the FA label on the grounds that I don't admire fat, I admire beauty and see it in all shapes and sizes.
SSBBW Magazine: Have you always been open with family/friends about being attracted to large women or did you try to hide it?
FA: I've always been a rather reserved and private person, in the english tradition I suppose we just don't talk about sex at the dinner table...lol when I've been with a larger lady I've never knowingly shirked away from introducing her to friends and family.
SSBBW Magazine: What attracts you to SSBBWs?
FA: They often have great ego integrity, they are aware of themselves and have often come to the point of being unconcerned by the judgments of others, and I value that in people in general, I'm not very interested in people who are always trying to act and be the way everyone else wants them to be.
SSBBW Magazine: What is your ideal woman?
FA: Shes a dreamer, an artist, a poet and a poets muse, all in one.
SSBBW Magazine: What are the joys of being with an ssbbw?
FA: I've only ever had one long relationship with an ssbbw, I found her engaging because she was a strong woman, physically it felt very comfortable to be together, a big soft cuddle is the best kind.
SSBBW Magazine: What are the drawbacks?
FA: Sex can be complicated her weight was such that lying on her back gave her breathing problems, and bellies can be a hinderance, that and I think she often restrained herself out of fear of crushing, hurting me.. but there are ways around all those issues you just need to think about it. Outside of sex there are mobility issues, she needed an electric scooter to go any great distance, I became aware that she didnt want to stop at certain bars or cafes because she was eyeing up the chairs and wondering will it hold? The things in life that I take for granted like fitting in a chair, being able to make it up a flight of stairs, using public transport etc.. were drawbacks from the point of view that these things had to be considered before going out together, but I think beneficial for me as it helped me understand her better, and what is was like to be big.
SSBBW Magazine: If your woman wanted to have weight loss surgery would you support her? Stay with her?
FA: If their heart was set on it yes, but surgery is a very drastic solution, that has risks, if weight loss was not acheivable without it I would be 100% behind her, and I'd stay as long as she wanted me around.
SSBBW Magazine: If your woman was unable to leave the house or needed constant care and help because of her size, would you be there for her?
FA: Yes, but I'd be there encouraging her to diet and lose weight so that she could regain her health and I'd be fighting for all the help the medical world can offer, theres far too much wonderful stuff in the world for someone to be stuck indoors, in pain, and slowly dying.
SSBBW Magazine: Is there such a thing too big?
FA: Yes, if as above it means your stuck in the house, or need constant medical care, it isnt sexy, it isnt beautiful, it isnt a life for a human being.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to all the SSBBWs reading this?
FA: Hello Girls! If you can be happy with who you are then dont let anyone stop you being yourself, and if your not then don't be afraid to ask for help, or to make a change.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to all the FAs reading this?
FA: Are you really an FA? Is just the fact that a girl is fat the only thing you look for? and if so would you entertain the possibility that as a man you have a very narrow view of beauty, and perhaps ought to work at being less superficial?
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to those just reading this out of curiosity about the SSBBW / FA community?
FA: Dating a fat girl is not a weird thing, take a look at couples in the supermarket one day, or in the just married part of the newspaper, there are millions of men and women with partners who are overweight, and consider if it really is some odd sub culture or a more general fact that being big doesnt stop you being desirable.
SSBBW Magazine: Thank you Gareth.