AN FAs VIEW
FAs (Fat Admirers) and their views, thoughts and issues
What is is like being an FA in today's society. What are the joys of living/being with an SSBBW. Are there drawbacks? Let us know at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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January 2010 our FA was a SSBBW Admirer from the U.S.
SSBBW Magazine: How long have you been an FA?
FA: Since very young, I have always found myself in admiration of a full figure woman. I had many large women in my family and saw them as genuine and happy people. As I grew up, my appreciation and attraction to a large, soft, curvacious woman was increased with both my emotional and physical desire to have them as close friends and more. I can see a truly beautiful person both inside and out in a large woman, a beauty without self-centered personalities and superficial thoughts, A beauty that is desired to be shared in the hopes of a true relationship whether as friends or as more.
SSBBW Magazine: Have you always been open with family/friends about being attracted to large women or did you try to hide it?
FA: I am one that has always worn my heart on my sleeve as they say, so it was always obvious to others. I would not want to hide this as I am proud of my friends and the lovely large lady I would have with me. I did face ridicule often, especially in the younger years. Our society is tough on those that do not fit their idea of "beauty" and this was something to face always. Still, my appreciation and understanding made me proud for public displays of affection and always showing others I had someone special that they may never find in their more societal views.
SSBBW Magazine: What attracts you to SSBBWs?
FA: Many things attract me to a SSBBW. First, I think there is a physical beauty that cannot be duplicated in a smaller woman.Their eyes, a kind and caring look in a soft full face. A smile that can melt your heart and show an open and real person. The large, soft curves that are heaven to touch, with a warm glow and feel. From beautiful full legs, hips, and tummy, to a curvy chest and arms made to hug and hold. Emotionally, there is a deep attraction in their beautiful desires to share and be loved. An offering of love that is rarely found, real, and deep. This love, shown both in physical passion and in emotional sharing, can be stronger and larger in capacity than many others find themselves able to love.
SSBBW Magazine: What is your ideal woman?
FA: My ideal woman would have many of the attributes mentioned above. I absolutely love and find a physical desire with a soft, full sized woman, one that has curves all over. One that is not ashamed of her beautiful large size, yet is modest enough to limit who she shares them with. Most importantly, my ideal woman would have a large heart, with an emotional desire and capacity to freely accept the love I can offer, without stipulation or suspicion. One who does not put up emotional walls, doubting that I would have the capacity and true attraction to them. One who knows that she is beautiful inside and out. Finally, one who is not afraid to share herself in physical passion, one who appreciates the joys of romance and intimacy, never being embarrassed or sefl conscious, making it difficult to show her that there is a deep physical and emotional attraction.
SSBBW Magazine: What are the joys of being with an ssbbw?
FA: Open and honest communication, never being afraid to be who I am without fear of abuse. Having a friend or lover that listens, cares, and understands that I am someone with dreams and fears, joys and pains. I love the laughter, the excitement, the wide smile. Passionately I love the physical intimacy, a feeling of deep passion in their large body, sharing warmth and love, and appreciating every curve and soft touch.
SSBBW Magazine: What are the drawbacks?
FA: Drawbacks are only created in one's mind and limitations. When someone fails to have the desire to achieve something, that will create a drawback regardless of size. In my feeling, there are no drawbacks, only positive aspects. Even those that say weight is a health risk, this may be true, but only when an unhealthy lifestyle pursues. Being active and healthy is not a weight issue as much as it is a lifestyle issue.
SSBBW Magazine: If your woman wanted to have weight loss surgery would you support her? Stay with her?
FA: Showing love and admiration for the one you are with is supporting them in all of their goals. Attraction is deeper than physical, and loving thyself first is most important. My support of her desires and goals would be full. Although I must selfishly hope that she desires to retain some of her beautiful curvyness and soft, warm, beautiful body that makes for such an incredible intimate experience.
SSBBW Magazine: If your woman was unable to leave the house or needed constant care and help because of her size, would you be there for her?
FA: No question. Supporting her needs in all capactities needs to be a top priority. Caring for her needs and spending quality time with her at home is what having that special love and bond is all about. Since this can occur with anyone regardless of weight, I think it is more a question of loyalty. I am proud of my attraction to the inner and outer beauty of a SSBBW, and therefore must ensure her happiness in all circumstances.
SSBBW Magazine: Is there such a thing too big?
FA: Size is a frame of mind. From a physical aspect, no I do not believe there is such thing as too big. Beauty is who the person is. A genuine, loving, and happy person is beautiful through and through. If this person was wrapped in an extra large body, than there is more to love. I have never seen any size as too big, and have personaly found some wonderful super large women that have been great friends and intimate lovers.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to all the SSBBWs reading this?
FA: Beauty is in who you are, not in your numbers. Appreciate someone who compliments your beauty and don't shrug it off. Don't ever get caught up in seeing yourself as a size. Your size adds to the beautiful person you are. You have a lot to offer this world, physically, emotionally. History shows us that societies have dictated how people live. From the cars we drive to the houses we own. The clothes we wear and the slang we use. All dictated from what society pushes as acceptable. In a society that sees physical petiteness as acceptable beauty, we have once again missed the point. Beauty begins on the inside of who one is. An outer beauty is a matter of opinion and there are many, many people that find your large physical attributes as sexier than any red carpet goer. Be proud of your curves. Don't hide them, flaunt them for the world to see. God gave you those curves as part of the total package. They are not a burden but an enjoyment. Enjoy your curves, enjoy your life.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to all the FAs reading this?
FA: Make sure every day is a day that you appreciate your full size goddess. Your beautiful lady deserves to know each and every day that you admire her beauty both inside and out. Know what she wants out of life by asking, talking, and sharing. Give yourself fully both emotionally and physically. Let her feel the full passion of a man that finds a sexual charge in her full size and create a physical and emotional intimacy with her that no one else can. Finally, when you see a beautiful SSBBW out and about, compliment her beauty, don't pass her by.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to those just reading this out of curiosity about the SSBBW / FA community?
FA: We are not a secret society of special people, shunning those that do not belong. We are people looking to belong and be appreciated for who we are and what we can offer the world. Despite many decades of societal influence and change, beauty is still seen as skin deep in many cases. This is a thought process that can only be changed by creating a society of size acceptance. Prejudices and ridicules are a cruel way to live and more hurt is placed on the heart in looks and wispers than in a smile and genuine compliment. Everyone needs to help drive size acceptance. Whether by designing clothes for the full sized woman or by driving demonstrations for acceptance. By ensuring that everyone in your circle of friends is equal or by sharing a smile and compliment, the smallest steps make the world a better place.
He also says: Know who you are inside. Super Sized Big Beautiful Woman, Big Beautiful Woman, Fat Admirer, they are just terms. They are not who you are. The capacity to love, appreciate, and genuinely care is in your emotional status, not in the size of your body or the prefence in body type. Remember, being a large person is not a curse, it is a bonus that smaller people may not have. I personally rather have someone with more to love, bones hurt in a hug! I am welcome to any feedback you may have on my words. Please feel free to drop me a line in the forums, I would love to hear your thoughts. Username: SSBBW Admirer
SSBBW Magazine: Thank you SSBBW Admirer.