AN FAs VIEW
FAs (Fat Admirers) and their views, thoughts and issues
What is is like being an FA in today's society. What are the joys of living/being with an SSBBW. Are there drawbacks? Let us know at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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September 2011 our FA was Biggirlluvher, a 36 year old from Montreal, Quebec
SSBBW Magazine: How long have you been an FA?
FA: I was an FA before I would learn that the term was applicable to me. My first moments of sexual arousal involved top-heavy women. I first noticed how excited I was in the presence of an older and very voluptuous family member but was compelled to conceal it for fear of being reprimanded by my family. In high school, I was more attracted to girls that were either top-heavy or slightly plump. One girl I had a crush on was one of the most well-endowed of my school and underwent breast reduction surgery years after we graduated. Another girl that I had a crush on was among the heaviest of my school has grown to be a ssbbw today. It appears that I was drawn to women that had the potential to be curvier or larger than the average woman. In many ways, those women are the prototypes for what I perceive as beautiful or physically attractive.
SSBBW Magazine: Have you always been open with family/friends about being attracted to large women or did you try to hide it?
FA: I was timid for most of my youth and my family is unfortunately not as accepting of big people or weight gain as I am. I was not completely aware of my attraction to bigger girls as a teen and fell under societal pressure to have a slim woman by my side. It was not until my early 20s when I introduced my first long-term plumper girlfriend to my family. My friends have witnessed my behaviour when Iíd be near bbw so they have been more in tune with my attraction. Now that I am older, bigger, stronger and wiser, I am fully aware that society, family and friends do not control what women I find attractive. I love being in the presence of bbw/ssbbw and would ideally like to have more of those experiences and sensations in my life. Since I have had little to no opportunities to date ssbbw or introduce ssbbw to people in my life, the issue now is that neither family nor friends are fully aware of just how large a ssbbw I can be attracted to.
SSBBW Magazine: What attracts you to SSBBWs?
FA: Since touch and sensuality are very important to me, I would want the woman in my life to present me as much physical sensations as possible. There is no woman that is more volutptuous than a ssbbw. Iím attracted to the fact that ssbbw have the potential to be even larger, therefore presenting even more sensations than already available. Almost anything that signals Iím in the presence of a woman larger than the average has been a turn-on. Subtle and even not so subtle things involving ssbbw can excite me. Years ago, I used to get aroused when a young ssbbw I worked with made the office floor, my desk area and my body shake as she walked by. I also remember seeing another young ssbbw make the front of a bus dip with every step she took to get on it. While others may not pay much attention to those details, those kinds of things do not go unnoticed by an FA like me when ssbbw are concerned. Not every woman is capable of having that kind of effect on her surroundings or mine. I saw that as powerful and sexy at the same time.
SSBBW Magazine: What is your ideal woman?
FA: I donít know if itís possible to have an ideal woman but there are a few qualities I would like her to have. I prefer exceptionally voluptuous women, be they top, bottom or thigh heavy. A combination of all three would be nice but I would need a woman to be very well-endowed compared to the average woman in some manner. I like long haired women. I would want to be in the company of a woman that embraces and celebrates the fact she is ssbbw. The weight difference between myself and the ssbbw is what arouses me most so height difference is not big an issue. Personality wise, I would hope she has artistic leanings, tendencies or talents. I like intelligent and dynamic women that can stimulate my mind. I like to communicate via talk, text and email and would want a woman to reciprocate. My interest needs to be kept through lively, insightful, humorous conversation. A nurturing quality is good because Iíd be able to feel secure and comfortable knowing that she is attentive to my needs. Lastly, I like a woman that can cook, has a big appetite or ideally both. If she possesses any of those qualities, we can get along just fine.
SSBBW Magazine: What are the joys of being with an ssbbw?
FA: From the few ssbbw experiences Iíve had, Iíve enjoyed being in their presence. I liked snuggling or cuddling up to them when the opportunity presented itself. I liked the feeling of being overwhelmed by their abundance of curves. The chance for me to lay in bed with a ssbbw and feel the weight of her large breasts, belly and thighs pressing against my body doesn`t come soon or often enough in my opinion.
SSBBW Magazine: What are the drawbacks?
FA: I learned pretty early that there would be difficulties in dating a very large woman. Some family and friends have prejudices against large women and it could make things difficult in the relationship. The media perpetuates stereotyopes and negativity towards large women. I have had little experience or opportunities in dating ssbbw because there are few in my part of the country. That is a drawback for me but I aim to rise above the difficulties. There are the potential health concerns related to the woman being heavier than average. As an FA, I may have to deal with the day a womanís increased weight may pose risks that neither of us can ignore.
SSBBW Magazine: If your woman wanted to have weight loss surgery would you support her? Stay with her?
FA: I like women bigger rather than smaller. Iím accepting and ready for a womanís weight gain, whether it be accidental or on purpose, but canít deny if there are negative consequences connected to the increased weight. Iím aware that there can be health concerns involved when dealing with a ssbbw. If the decision for weight loss surgery is the best for my womanís health after my doing what I could to make things easier for her to cope with her weight gain, I would support it. If I can have enough love for my woman to support her due to her large size, I should have the same love to support her as she decreases in size. As long as our relationship has a firm foundation of trust, communication, commitment, and love for each other, I would value her being in my life and stay with her after the surgery. I admit it would be a change for both of us and we would need to adapt to our lives not being as supersized.
SSBBW Magazine: If your woman was unable to leave the house or needed constant care and help because of her size, would you be there for her?
FA: I remember watching The Jerry Springer Show when he interviewed Carole Yeager. Even though that was over 10 years ago, I remembered I was somewhat aroused by her weight and extremely large belly. To this day, she was the largest woman I had ever seen. Immobile ssbbw were the furthest women from my mind because I had no real contact or awareness of them. I was only then discovering the bbw/ssbbw online community and saw photos of women heavier than 400lbs for the first time in my life. It then occurred to me that any bbw/ssbbw could become larger and potentially immobile. I also understood that if I had a woman in my life that could approach immobility I could have to take care of her in some form or fashion.
SSBBW Magazine: Is there such a thing too big?
FA: Iím prepared to adapt to any challenge presented to me by my being in a relationship with a ssbbw. During a brief time with my first ssbbw lover weighing nearly 400lbs, I discovered I enjoyed being smothered by her. I couldnít withstand her weight against my body for too long, even though I enjoyed being under her. I wanted to continue experiencing the sensations of being pressed into the bed by her body and decided to strengthen myself through weight-training. Since then, I have had little to no difficulties withstanding bbw/near ssbbw body weight on top of me. To me, the only way a ssbbw can be ďtoo bigĒ is if her weight causes serious and negative consequences for both of us in our daily lives. If that point were to arrive in our relationship, we would have to deal with it together.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to all the SSBBWs reading this?
FA: I have fantasized about having you in my life for a long time and want to make my dreams come true. I want to get to know you, be there for you, support you, love you and please you any way I can. Society as a whole may not be appreciative of you but I am. That way, I would be able to show and tell you any chance I get that you, as an ssbbw, are the epitome of feminity and sex appeal to me.
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to all the FAs reading this?
FA: [No answer submitted]
SSBBW Magazine: What would you like to say to those just reading this out of curiosity about the SSBBW / FA community?
FA: [No answer submitted]
SSBBW Magazine: Thank you.